Thanks for being there and trying to help save our
marriage, you probably have no idea what it means to
me that you are available, you care and you know
your stuff.
--Thanks again and I'll be in
touch
Hi,
I wanted to say thank-you for basically saving my
life. If Sherry had not gotten me to see you I would
have never left NC and Michael. He is worse today
more then he has ever been, He had drunk so much
that his liver failed... After all the things he did
to me and my daughter, ...someday I will feel full
forgiveness, but not yet. It will come. So again,
Thank You for helping save my life."
--Jennifer
Hi
Susan! We absolutely had a blast meeting with you
Thursday! You are such a pleasant and encouraging
woman to be around! We talked about you the rest of
the week...all good things! Thank you so much for
your hospitality and we really enjoyed getting to
spend time with Moe as well! He has a beautiful
spirit! Thank you again so much for meeting with
us and making it such an enjoyable time!
Melissa and Frank
Dear Susan,
In your line of work, I would guess that you hear
mostly from people hitting hard times or dealing
with conflict. I thought it might be nice for you to
hear some good news for a change.
You performed the ceremony for my wife (a beautiful
and intelligent Chinese goddess) and I on. We went
to see you almost a year after because I was being
stupid.
You reminded us at that
marriage counseling session that both of us had
learned coping tools in our premarital
counseling, but that we had simply stopped using
them. You reminded us of things we'd already
learned, and taught us additional ways to
communicate honestly and from the heart. Thank you
SO much! Let me catch you up on what's happened...
Since then, my wife and I have pursued new jobs and
now live in Morrisville. She is doing techie kinds
of things at a newspaper company and I am doing
techie writing things at a small publishing company.
Yesterday we celebrated the Chinese new year and
appreciated how wonderful life is. We're both
healthy and very happy together. We keep a couple's
journal where we each fill half a page every night
to document the day. We try to focus on things that
make us feel aggravated, depressed, happy, or
content and we discuss and identify those things. We
also rate our happiness level on a scale of 1-10 for
that day. This has been a useful tool in our
relationship because it has helped us to know our
highs and lows, how they start, how they end, and
what we can do for each other to keep things
balanced.
Of course we still get into arguments now and then,
but that's life. We're usually pretty good at
resolving things and not going to bed angry. That
was a big point you made in our most recent session.
I guess we're kinda living the dream. Not the kind
of dream where we're rockstars or filthy rich, but
the kind where we're just being relatively good
people and helping each other through life. And you
helped us to grow and get to that point.
I hope all is well with you. Happy Chinese New Year!
Sincerely,
DJ
Something very
wonderful happened yesterday and I just have to
share with you.
John and I were in
the Jacuzzi last night. We were just talking about
our day and he mentioned he picked up another Sunday
shift for a friend. This kind of upset me since he
had done this the week before and since I've been
working so many weird hours at Victoria Secret,
Sundays have been one of our only days to spend time
together. Anyway, I jokingly said "No" to him and
kind of laughed and he got real serious and said
"Well, it's done. That's the way it is." His tone
was scary for me. He seemed really cold about it. I
immediately flashed back and got really quiet. He
said "Is this going to ruin our whole night now?" I
managed to say "Would you rather I didn't care about
the time we spend together?" He said no but didn't
know why I was getting quiet again. This only made
it worse and I found myself not being able to speak
at all. It turned into a vicious cycle.
The next thing I
knew, I had tears rolling down my face, which made
me mad because I don't like to cry, especially not
about that. He said he didn't know why I was crying
and I managed to say "I should have raised my
finger." He said he had forgotten what that meant,
which made me say it out loud. He immediately yells,
"OH! BATMAN!" And I laughed out loud through my
tears.
John's tone from
that moment on changed. He asked me what made me
feel that way and what caused me to think back. We
actually talked about it, and that has never
happened before. All of a sudden I just broke down
and cried and cried. It was the first time I had
ever told anyone what I was feeling in the moment
and it was such a release. It just all flooded out
of me. He told me I was there and that I was safe.
Those words meant more to me than just about
anything at that moment.
Reverend Kennedy,
you have given us some wonderful tools to work with.
I look forward to working with you because I know
that if we have the tools, and really work on it, we
could have one of those wonderful marriages filled
with love and respect. Thank you so much for that. I
also thanked John for talking me through that, and
it seemed to mean a lot to him too.
