Variety is the spice of life and, being of Hungarian descent, I do like to keep it spicy!  Here are some facets of who and what I am that you may find interesting.

Ordained Minister
I custom-write and perform weddings all over the United States for over 70 couples a year. While the national marriage success rate in the US is about 51%, couples who have had premarital counseling with me are at a 95%+ success rate. Click here to read more about my work as a minister on a different website.

Radio Host
I’m also a regular co-host on the LA-based radio show "We The People with Dave Sears.”  I help Dave interview guests ranging from Pulitzer Prize-winning authors to political leaders, national military leaders, astrologers and psychics! I’m usually interested in asking about what led someone to do what they love, while Dave has his own approach to interviewing. With call-in guests, we usually have a pretty lively show!

9/11
People who lost a loved one in the 9/11 attack needed ways to find closure.  After being called by a reporter from the Gannett newspaper chain about this problem, I thought that offering an urn of ashes from the site might help ease their pain.  For many weeks I worked with Mayor Giuliani’s office to find ways to get the city of NY to give each family an urn of ashes from the site.  As you might guess, this was a lengthy process! First of all, the ashes had to be treated to make sure they contained nothing flammable or toxic. Then the validity of each request had to be proven. Finally, the city of New York had to decide who would supply the urns, collect the ashes and then place them into the urns. Although the city had a lot more on its mind than giving out urns at that time, I’m happy to report that NYC’s gift of those urns did, in fact, help bring closure to a great many individuals and families.

Volunteer Work
I am very involved in Faith Action House of Greensboro. I work with leaders from a gamut of faith groups to promote the understanding that we all come from the same Source and that we’re therefore all on the same side!  I also provide psychological help for immigrants and other neglected parts of the population.

Author
Since the age of 13, I have been published in a variety of formats on a regional, national and international basis.  I have plans to expand the professional thesis I’ve developed over the years into a book, which will focus on utilizing the concept of One Creator, or Divine Mind, as an integrating tool for monotheistic clients with Dissociative Identity Disorder.  I hope to include an interactive workbook and other support tools, as well.

Arts & Crafts as Therapy

• I had a client who suffered frequent flashbacks of abuse that happened decades earlier, at the hands of people now long dead.  How could I help her remember, whenever a flashback started, that she was no longer in danger? For our next two sessions, we sat on the floor making a bright paper chain with colored construction paper, scissors and paste. I had her choose a different color to signify different years and experiences. She chose black for the years she was abused and nobody knew, another color for the years after the abuse stopped (but before she began therapy) and yet another color to signify the year she was properly diagnosed (but was still hurting herself.) She then used a brighter color to indicate when she had learned to get her self-harm under control, finally ending with her favorite color to designate the most recent years in which she has been making extraordinary progress!

She also wrote a year on each link along with a corresponding, significant memory from that year. From time to time, I still show this client the chain to visually remind her, instantly, that the "abuse color" is many rings back in the chronology of life and that the dark colors were replaced by bright, happy colors for almost half of the chain. It has proven to be a valuable reminder and inspiration for her!

• Another client found healing when she molded Play-Doh into people and animals. The very act of pounding and kneading the dough was a great stress release, and we then used what she created to act out what was bothering her.  At the end of that series of sessions, she kept some of the figures, gave one to me and smashed the rest flat into pancakes. Now, whenever she remembers back to how she felt while acting everything out, her stress dissipates.

Creative Therapy
I wrote a book to help one client with multiple personalities grasp the fact that her various alter egos were all part of the same person – created at different points in her life for very specific reasons. The book has all the personalities (i.e. “alters” or “the people inside”) moving into one safe home with their own bedrooms, each decorated with that alter’s favorite things.  Eventually they start leaving their bedroom doors open and going out into the playroom with one or more of the others. They eventually realize that they all live in the same house and share a lot of the same experiences – only they didn't know it because the walls of their rooms divided them. Eventually they realize that, if they all work together to combine memories and coping strategies, they're safer and happier than they could ever be alone. Each alter has his/her own copy of the book, and they are encouraged to share their books with the others when they're ready. This custom-designed book really helped my client – who hadn't made much progress over the previous three years – to make great progress over the next year that I’m not sure she could have accomplished any other way.